There are several Bible verses about children which help us as parents.
Have you ever heard the expression that there is no manual for raising children? Have you ever been told that your child did not come with an instruction manual? Would it surprise you to know that those expressions are not true?
Do children sometimes seem like aliens? Why do they act the way that they do? Why do they say the things that they do? Have you ever seen the program called, “Children do the darndest things?” When you are dealing with your children, do you have be remind yourself of what it was like when you were that age?
We can go to the bookstore and find shelves full of books on parenting. There are books that cover virtually every age and every stage of child development. Some of them are worthless and misleading. Some of them are very insightful. But there is no greater guide than the Bible.
The God who created humanity also gave us a book that guides us and teaches us in every part of our lives. Yes, that includes how to raise children. Bible verses about children and how to raise them cover everything from nursing babies to young adults.
As a baby, we learn that Jesus “grew and became strong in spirit, filled with wisdom; and the grace of God was upon Him” (Luke 2.40). If you study this passage carefully, you will discover that the reason Jesus grew up strong and with wisdom was due to his mother’s involvement in His life.
During the time Moses was born, the Egyptians declared that all male children were to be killed. Yet the parents of Moses showed courage and hid Moses for three months. Why? We learn from Hebrews 11.23 that they “were not afraid of the king’s command.” Do you suppose the courage of his parents influenced him growing up? (Heb. 11.24-26).
There are valuable lessons we can learn from how children were raised in Bible times. While we cannot explore all the different Bible verses about children, consider the following ten verses.
Too many see children as a burden. They interfere with our happiness. They keep us from our dreams. They add responsibilities that we do not want. It amazes me how little value so many parents place on their children.
This passage tells us that children are a blessing from God. They are not a punishment. They are not a burden. They are a reward. The passage goes on to describe children as arrows. It then says, “happy is the man who has his quiver full of them” (Ps. 127.4,5).
There is no question that children can make life difficult. As parents we love our children more than anything, but sometimes we need a break. Even in those moments, we should never forget that children are a blessing from God.
There are times when children can really humble a parent and make them feel like they are fumbling in the dark. Then there are time when children can make parents feel like royalty.
Those moments when you feel like you are actually getting through to him can make you feel like a king. Those times when your young daughter looks up to you with trusting eyes makes you feel like you can accomplish anything. These Bible verses about children remind us that God has truly blessed us by adding children to our lives.
I chose this Bible verse about children because it shows the value of raising children. We live in a time when parents are more concerned about their careers than their children. Moms and dads are being told that they can have it all. They can be parents and also have a successful career.
There are even those who downplay the value of raising children suggesting that a mom or dad who chooses to stay at home to raise their children lack ambition.
This is a verse that describes a woman who is full of good works. Those works include…
Being a stay at home mom or dad is valuable. It is considered by God as a good work and is listed among other noble works in this verse.
Never feel ashamed about being a stay at home parent. Never let society make you feel like you lack ambition. Raising children is such a rewarding and ambitious endeavor. The mother or father who chooses to stay at home and bring their children up to be godly adults are to be highly praised.
The book of Proverbs is filled with expressions of general wisdom. They do not take into consideration all the different nuances and factors that might be involved.
This proverb does not mean that every child who is raised right will turn out to be a productive part of society without exception. Generally speaking, a child who is raised right will grow up to be a good adult. But there are other factors that are not taken into consideration.
Children have their own minds, and some children will choose the wrong path regardless of how much work we put into training them right.
Ezekiel 18.3-20 tells us about a hypothetical father who raises a son who turns out to be a thief, murderer, and a womanizer. In this situation, we are told that the father is not responsible for the bad decisions his son makes.
Parents are responsible for raising their children right (1 Sam. 3.13). They are to bring up a child in the way he should go. But a child still has to choose to go that way. Generally speaking, we are told that if we raise children right, it is very likely they will grow up to be good adults.
We cannot make them choose the right path, but we can show them the right path and give them the tools they need to have the best change to succeed.
In our culture, spanking a child is considered an unacceptable form of punishment. Some even suggest that spanking a child will raise them to be violent.
These Bible verses about children tell us that such is not the case. We are to bring up our children in the way they are to go. Part of the process of raising them right is to discipline them when they are headed in the wrong direction.
The word “discipline” carries the idea of teaching. Growing up, I sometimes got myself into trouble. I did things I should not have done – just as we all have. My dad would take off his belt, and tell me that he was going to teach me a lesson.
This needs to be said. Beating a child is abuse and should never be acceptable. When the Bible talks about beating a child, it is not referring to abuse. It is simply describing the act of spanking. There is a difference between spanking for the purpose of teaching a lesson and beating a child as a way of venting your anger.
Disciplining a child teaches him two valuable life lessons.
First, it teaches them that there are consequences to their actions. Too many children today grow up believing that they can do whatever they want and get away with it. There are too many adults who disregard the laws of the land because they have never learned that there are consequences to breaking the law.
Second, it teaches children to respect authority. So many adults today have little respect for our police. They have no respect for their fellow man. Worse yet, they have no respect for God and His authority. This lack of authority can be traced back to the fact that their parents did not instill in them a respect for their authority.
The Bible has told us all along that children need discipline. Did you notice that in the seventh Bible verse above, we learn that disciplining children will “deliver his soul from hell?” A child’s spiritual condition and ultimately his eternal destination will be determined in part by the kind of discipline he receives as he grows up.
There are two fascinating thoughts in these two Bible verses about children.
First of all, children are told to obey their parents in all things. This is a message that is for the parents just as much as it is for the kids.
The fact that children are to obey their parents implies that parents have rules to follow. Children cannot obey their parents if their parents do not have anything to obey. Children need boundaries, and too many parents fail to provide those boundaries.
Second, parents (specifically fathers), are not to provoke their children. The idea of provoking a child carries the idea of being too demanding. If you have ever had a father that you could never please, then you understand the sentiment in this verse.
There are some parents who are never happy with their children. If a child gets a “C” in school, the parents want a “B.” If the child gets a “B” then the parents expected an “A.” If the child gets an “A” then the parents wonder why they were not more involved in the sports program.
This passage tells us that parents are to have rules to follow. But those rules are not to be so stringent that a child can never do anything right. A father or mother need to balance discipline with praise. A child who can never please his parents will grow up discouraged.
This is a passage that was referenced earlier. The chapter begins with an illustration. Suppose a good father raises a child the right way. Yet the child decides that he would rather be a thief, murderer, and womanizer. This Bible verse about children tells us that the father is not responsible for the bad decisions made by his son.
What this verse tells us is that parents are not responsible for the actions of their children, and children are not responsible for the actions of their parents. “The son shall not bear the guilt of the father.”
Original sin is the widespread and popular doctrine that we are guilty of sin because we inherited it from our parents. This inherited sin goes all the way back to Adam. Adam passed it on to his children, and it was passed on from generation to generation.
This idea of original sin is never taught in the Bible. The Bible repeatedly tells us that we are guilty of sin because we committed sin. It is not because we inherited it from our parents. This verse is one example that shows us that “the soul who sins shall die.”
In this passage, Jesus is having a conversation with His disciples. He tells them that those who are heaven bound are those who are “converted and become as little children.”
If you study this verse in context, you will discover that the disciples were discussing who would be the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. They were arguing because each one wanted to hold an exalted position.
Jesus addresses their desire to be great in the kingdom by using children as an illustration.
You can almost visualize Jesus stretching out His hand and pointing to some children in the distance. I find it very interesting that Jesus never tells them who is going to be great. He tells them that they cannot even enter the kingdom unless they become like little children.
In what way are we to be like children? He explains in the next verse. Matthew 18.4: “Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”
Children are humble. If we want to enter the kingdom of heaven, we cannot be people who are arrogant. We cannot be people who exalt themselves. Instead we are to be like little children. In other words, we are to be humble.
There are many more Bible verses about children which can help us understand our children and help raise them to be godly adults. Hopefully these verses are enough to give us a sampling of the kind of parents we are to be and the role we are to play in our children’s lives.